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Old 10-09-2021, 11:52 AM
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This months photo competition seeems to be becoming derailed by a feeling that the site is all about inner cliques (which it is not).

If this needs to be aired, let it be here rather than in the competition thread.

If you need for your opinions to be heard keep it respectful or the thread would end up being deleted. At the same time, it's better that you say what is causing you an issue as only by airing it can we resolve the perceived issues which I believe that you will find do not actually exist.

The original thread is here: http://www.uklovedollforums.co.uk/fo...t=15796&page=5

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Since I seemed to have pissed off the "in crowd" no need to enter the contest
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Ive been here 18 months and we have an in crowd.... Wtf... Why wasn't i invited!!!!!!!!
Seriously tho slayers we love your girls here.
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Remember one thing in life Slayers you can't make anyone feel anything we all can choose how to feel about whatever. Well, unless you biff them or force them to watch the new version of Cats then thems the exceptions! I'm not entering either I don't want to piss Shamus off.
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I wasn't aware that there's an "in crowd" and anyway I do my best to avoid such groups.
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rest assured their is no inner clique that is looking to exclude you.

Good to see it finally confirmed by somebody else. I thought I was going nuts. Why do you think we haven't bothered to contribute as of late?
Perhaps Slayers isn't referring to just the competition specifically. Something to think about
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Who said anything about voting? Did you even read what I wrote?

Mr Flibble is correct, this should be discussed elsewhere. I haven't the time right now, but since my accounts are no longer even supposed to be active, i'm more than willing to give my thoughts.


And my responses in that thread:
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Seriously, I don't understand what you mean.

Everyone who enters has equal chance of winning.

I do think that its a problem that we are restricted to just three votes as some good entries get lower votes than they previously would have done and that is bound to affect peoples confidence.

I think that I am partly responsible for that as last October when it was the Halloween competition I used Rivers account to give everyone who entered an extra vote. It made no difference to the result but it made entrants feel better about getting higher results. And as far as I was concerned the main thing about the competition was that it was supposed to be fun and people don't have fun coming away without any votes.

Apparently it didn't go down very well though behind the scenes. The result was, no dolly accounts and no more than three votes per person and I fear that is now reflected in some lower votes for still worthy entries. Not because of some site clique but simply that we only have three votes and normally a dozen images so one can no longer vote for all of those they like (my average previously was five votes) but have to restrict voting to just three.

I personally have had photo's that I think should have won that have scored really badly and others where I wasn't completely happy with them that did really well. You look at the competition and think, no, that isn't right, are these people looking at the same pic... but you accept it, dust yourself off and start again the following month.

There is no conspiracy. You are not an outsider and even if there are some groups of mates here I don't think that it influences voting.

Stay shiny my friend and rest assured their is no inner clique that is looking to exclude you. Each image is judged on its own merits comparative to the other entries that month.

All the best,

Shamus.
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Why would entering the competition piss me off???

I'm confused this morning.
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Ok, Slayers comment has taken this completely off piste but its uncovering what seems to be a feeling of a two tier site which is simply not true. At least not in any meaningful way in that there are freindships on here but that doesn't in any way mean that we excclude anyone else.

There will always be divisions on any site but surely walls are there to be broken down, not reinforced?

Think about it. In the past there was discernable division between Silicone and TPE people... Where is that division now. Completely gone because we are not that sort of site.

We debate, we argue, we occassionally fall out but that doesn't mean that issues are taken from one thread to another and simply disagreeing with someone has any baring over whether I vote for them in the photo competition.

So what is this site division that you see that affects the way that we vote?

Back to this debate, I for one will say that every month I vote based on the merit of the image, not the person who posted it.

Shamus.
Right. Say whats on your mind and lets get this fixed.

Shamus.
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Old 10-09-2021, 11:55 AM
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am i invited to the inner group ??....



not for my self.... charlotte wanted to join
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Old 10-09-2021, 12:00 PM
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Shamus my comment was a joke about not entering because of you any insecurities i might have about entering photograph are just to do with i need a better camera and I don't want to enter this month until I get better at photography. Im bowing out now i want no part in this I've only been here since July.
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Old 10-09-2021, 12:03 PM
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Likewise, I too am bowing out until such time as the so called 'inner clique' is both defined and palpably demonstrated. At that point, it can then be dealt with as required.
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Old 10-09-2021, 12:41 PM
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See if you're having a hard time dealing with aspects of your life we all do the things bothering you can be not solveable or really hard to accept, so what do we do - we carry that and find a target we can vent on even an imaginary one. Is that not what's happening here? Sorry Shamus I feel I should apologise that was a crap joke and facetious. Sorry.
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Old 10-09-2021, 12:57 PM
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I have no idea what anyone is talking about.

Happy Friday people
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Good idea to have a separate thread about "beefs"

For the avoidance of any doubt, I do not have any!

My comment was simply reflecting my position about so-called "in crowds" and cliques in general
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Old 10-09-2021, 01:29 PM
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I have no idea what anyone is talking about.

Happy Friday people
Me neither.

I just wanted the discussion out of the monthly photo competition and if people are harbouring some ill feeling then this gives them the opportunity for us to fix them as I for one am not seeing it.

Happy Friday matey
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Me neither.

I just wanted the discussion out of the monthly photo competition and if people are harbouring some ill feeling then this gives them the opportunity for us to fix them as I for one am not seeing it.

Happy Friday matey
I'm not seeing no ill feeling neither, mate

Happy Friday!
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Old 10-09-2021, 02:01 PM
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I'm not seeing no ill feeling neither, mate
Woohoo! A rare triple negative. Congratulations sir!
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