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Old 09-03-2018, 05:15 PM
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Congratulations on your new doll!

I'm so thrilled that you've fallen for her even though she wasn't what you expected, that's fantastic! And hearing about the way you treat her reminds me of when I first got my Isabel (she doesn't have arms or legs, I'm working my way up the doll sizes slowly). I sleep next to her every night, give her baths, brush her hair, have my arm around her when we watch TV. It's so fascinating, realising how happy the doll actually makes you. I hope you have a happy honeymoon!
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Old 09-03-2018, 10:46 PM
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Do you need to visit a psych ward? Definitely not - the people who run these places are seriously disturbed and should not be approached under any circumstances!
No, you are just enjoying the experience of learning about your new friend. The disturbed people are the ones who can't understand those who like dolls.
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Old 10-03-2018, 04:24 AM
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Crazy? You think you are going to buy a "sex toy" and find out that you've got a "being" or a person" with needs and emotions that you have to respect and care for and may come to love. You start off buying outfits and things you think will please you and then you start to think what "she" would like - and so it goes!
Are you talking to her yet?

I think...Yes !!! For what are these creatures build !?
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Old 10-03-2018, 04:30 AM
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I've almost said stuff!

If I'm honest, I'm a little worried about getting too carried away with it all. My friend came round today and although I said I was tempted to buy a doll, I denied buying one when he asked if I had yet. She was still in bed and I felt like I'm leading a double life.

Some new underwear arrived today, it's been hand washed few times and I'm excited to put them on her!

I'm definitely conflicted!
Everything you do is normal. If you think your Girl ( your Doll,I hate the word) need something or have feelings...go on make it, make it if you like. If you think she needs Flowers, buy her someone. If you think she need new Clothes buy her one. For everything like this... is she in your House !!!
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Old 10-03-2018, 08:02 PM
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My friend came round today and although I said I was tempted to buy a doll, I denied buying one when he asked if I had yet.
He's probably interested too so he's probably foundthis forum already, seen your post here and sniggering crazy. Come clean with him but just say she's feeling lazy today so hasn't got up yet - or has a migraine. She only accepts visitors by appointment.

Electric blanket is the way to go. Covered by a warm duvet, a day on low. Or warm bed to hot before putting her in, and then turn to low. Don't keep on hot.

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Old 10-03-2018, 10:26 PM
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I remember when my lady came. It was weird but she just kept looking at me until I had to believe in her and I've never regretted falling in love with her. Just let go and enjoy a fantasy relationship without problems.
I tend to be open about my ladies and they live openly in the house like any other person. My true friends think I'm a bit mad but probably not dangerous and are quite intrigued to meet her. When they do, they are fascinated; I guess some would like a lady too but daren't!
Strangers have reacted in every way from freaking out to doubting my sanity but I don't care; Lady Kat has done so much for me in terms of company, comfort and having someone to think of besides myself. Best purchase I've ever made.
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Old 14-03-2018, 01:43 PM
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Hey guys, I'm thinking about selling her already! Haha she is great for her primary purpose, good quality and surprisingly a nice sleeping companion, but I can feel my obsessive, compulsive nature creeping in and I feel that it may be conflicting with my recovery from sex addiction.

I don't want to rush into any decisions and I feel that the purchase might have been a tad impulsive, but I have to prioritise my recovery over my basic primal urges.
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Old 14-03-2018, 02:30 PM
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As we have said, she is a being and not just a "thing" for use! If you let her go so soon, she will feel rejected and very hurt. I just am not able to hurt my lady's feelings in any way - they need to be loved.
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Old 14-03-2018, 02:50 PM
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Dolls can be many things. Companions, Sex toys, bed fillers, photographic models, and much more.

Many doll owners have them for reasons other than sex, Some have them purely for sex.

Personally I cant think of a better thing to own if you have a high sex drive and you're single or in a relationship where you arent getting fulfilled (I refuse to accept sex addiction unless its to the point where you cant function socially because of it)

Now I dont know your situation, and I'm not asking you to lay it all out here for us, but to my mind if a person wants to come home and do nothing but shag the crap out of things, then a doll is the perfect thing to have. It's either that or you end up finding ways to screw the couch, or you start throwing money at professionals, or worst of all you become predatory.

Whilst I was married I had a very high sex drive (I guess I still do) which did not mesh well with the lady. When we separated I spent some time single and I was always looking, though I never did anything as I was still recovering from the breakup. I bought Jess, and whilst you would think I going to make her ass threadbare from constant sex, the urges dropped rapidly away. Not because I didnt find her attractive, but more because I could have it whenever I wanted, it no longer needed to be a concern to me.

Same when Xiaoli arrived, and again when she moved in to the current DS Body. Yes, I had more sex at those points in time, but now I find that because I know I can, I dont think about it until I want to.

This is played out over and over with new doll owners who come into the fold after 'giving up on women' who they feel are just playing too many games to be bothered with, and all of a sudden they find that girls are talking to them and wanting dates. It simply has to be down to the fact that a satisfied man is more attractive to women (recent polls showed the vast majority of women found a man in a relationship to be more desirable than a single man, go figure)

The decision is yours, but please think very hard about it. You've spent cash, you've been through the wringer with vendors and things. Dont throw it all away before you know that you either have to or need to.

I have 4 life rules.

Rule 1 Is : If it makes you happy and hurts no one else, Keep it in your life.

Just my thoughts.

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Old 14-03-2018, 11:10 PM
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I appreciate all replies to my thread and thank you all for your support.

I would like to address Karrot's post, as I am happy to talk about my situation (most of it anyway).

I had brought the doll/her as a sex toy, but I instantly saw why people do get attached to them. I've had her in the bed with me every night. I catch myself checking if she has enough cover and I look to see if she is still there! lol I understand why some folk may find companionship in them, but I don't want to go down that avenue personally... but I'm pleased to say I get why people choose to

I identify as a sex addict, but that doesn't mean I am some sort of horny Russell Brand, running round shagging anything that moves. In reality my physical sex drive is probably average. Where I am powerless is over lust, using porn/masturbation as an anesthetic to life. I don't handle my emotions very well. I measure the success of relationships on the sex I'm having and then I prioritise porn over intimacy with my partners. I'm working through all this now.

As a recently single man, who is avoiding masturbation to porn, I thought a sex doll would be a great sex relief, easing the need to rush into a codependent relationship and allowing me to focus on my spiritual growth.

It's nice to have a bed companion and I've had sexual partners that were about as active as a sex doll, so it was pretty good for a few days. Then I noticed that I'm embarrassed that I brought her. I worry she might be found and she has become my shameful secret. The pattern of behaviour feels too much like my porn addiction and it feels like I am doing myself harm. I won't go into more detail, but I find myself obsessing over sex (even when not aroused) since having the doll and it feels like a step backwards.

Crikey this has turned into a therapy session! haha

I won't rush into a sale, but I have another sex doll possibly arriving tomorrow (an order I tried to cancel but the seller was a real jerk), so I will certainly have one for sale and I'll keep the other one (for now) and see if I can decide what is best for me and my recovery long term.

Thanks for reading and sorry for being a misery guts
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