Welcome Flanders and your soon to be named.
The girls do feel heavy because of the *dead weight*. My two are 29kgs and 34kgs.
I'd like to add to Ich Wills suggestion, before moving her to a sat position, with her legs in the air, you can put tights on her, skirt, shorts, jeans, etc. A lot won't go over the head, as you have to to go over the shoulders and this can turn into a struggle between you and your girl moaning you put the article of clothing the wrong end. Once you have the tights and lower clothing on, you can then shuffle her to the end of the bed, lower her legs down and with her feet positioned facing forward, stand her up. Then you can pull the tights, lower clothing item up.
We hope you find your connection with her and it will get easier in time. There are days I can't move my girls, so I don't. Chloe is evening lazier then me.
With names, I and know a few others have named their girls after women that don't share the same name. But I'm sure she will tell you soon enough.
